They call them mail-order brides for a reason. As in, your wife is sent to you; you don’t come to her — otherwise, this happens: Ex-gubernatorial candidate Cary Dolego of Arizona traveled all the way to Ukraine in search of love, only to be stood up by his supposed future wife. The victim of an Internet dating scam, he ended up hungry and suffering of pneumonia in a Ukrainian homeless shelter. Learn from this poor sap’s mistakes and become familiar with the pleasures and pitfalls of online dating. But if you’re really bent on going the mail-order-bride route, pleaseget the facts first.